posted : Tue, March 25, 2008 at 21:44
Why?
I wonder why you don't want to mention that it is because of his siblings allergy. I do understand that you don't want your 5-yr old blaming your 1 yr-old. However, you are a family and families watch out for each other. my 2y/o understands this so I hope your children will grasp it quickly. Perhaps it can be simply told that "milk could make the 1 yr. old very sick and have trouble breathing (or go to the ER or whatever your case would be without weighing it down with too many words and scary situations). We want (1yr old) to be safe and healthy. We do that in this family by not having anything with milk in it, in our home." You may also suggest that when 5'yr old goes to friends homes he may still have those foods, he just needs to remember to wash well before coming home -- if that is acceptable to you. You may also try to plan "special outings" for your 5 y/o where he gets to have a special treat. I would put special emphasis on that fact that you are a family and families do what is best for each other. And show ways that your 5y/o is important to the family too (not just the 1y/o).